Hurtful Words Need Positive Energy to Heal
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Hurtful Words Need Positive Energy to Heal
So I was trying to describe the texture of my hair (4a) to my boyfriend (for those of you who don't know he's never dated a black woman before) and this was when I first started nourishing my hair with oils and butters, it was still damaged from the perms I had put on it. He asked me what it felt like compared to his hair I, stupidly said kinky hair is rougher than that of Caucasian hair. This was because my hair was of high porosity so it feels bumpy to the touch. He said, "So it feels like pubic hair?" my heart sank. I didn't know what to say back to that. I was angry, my mind ran wild with thoughts of scenes from The Craft but I love him so I just gave up and sarcastically said, "Yes, Richard, it's like pubic hair" and rolled my eyes at him.
Today, I was washing my hair and it has progressed a lot since then, I thought, there's a better way to describe the differences in textures without being condescending, Caucasian hair is soft like silk while African and hair is soft like a cloud. Because healthy, natural hair is soft, not rough. Perms had fooled me into believing that highly porous hair is just my "natural" texture when not permed, when it isn't. My friends I wish I never tasted the creamy crack.
But it really hurt my feelings what he said about my hair....
Today, I was washing my hair and it has progressed a lot since then, I thought, there's a better way to describe the differences in textures without being condescending, Caucasian hair is soft like silk while African and hair is soft like a cloud. Because healthy, natural hair is soft, not rough. Perms had fooled me into believing that highly porous hair is just my "natural" texture when not permed, when it isn't. My friends I wish I never tasted the creamy crack.
But it really hurt my feelings what he said about my hair....
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